Mw'isi y'umuntu muto, ukuri kudahinduka ahora duhora dushiraho, kurimbuka biganisha ku guhangayika, kwangwa ndetse no gukomeretsa imitekerereze. Kumenya biragoye bidasanzwe mubitekerezo bidakuze ababyeyi barwango. Ibiro by'Amatangazo 24CMI byateguye ibikoresho byuburyo bwo kumenyesha umwana ibijyanye no gusebanya.
Kubaho cyangwa kutabaho
Isano yabantu bakuru hamwe nabana mubuzima bwabo bwose irageragezwa kubwimbaraga. Mumpamvu zo gutandukanya abashakanye, ibyifuzo byihutirwa bitujujwe, ubuhemu, ibibazo byo murugo, kubura gutandukana no kutavuga rumwe nubuzima, ingorane zamafaranga. Muyandi magambo, icyemezo cyo gutukwa gikorwa hashingiwe ku mpaka nziza.Niba ababyeyi bari mu kigo cy'ivangura batangaza ubutane, barabivuga kuri ibi, maze bukeye bwaho, umwana ari mu bihe biri mu bijyanye n'amarangamutima avuguruzanya kandi afunga.
Ugusigaye
Rero, icyemezo cyo gutandukana nyuma kandi ntigishobora kujuririrwa. Nigute twavuga kuri uyu mwana? Ubwa mbere, ababyeyi bamenya uburyo kuboneka mumuryango wa mugenzi wawe ukomeje gukorwa:
1. Kureka ubuziraherezo. Ababyeyi bakunze gutanga icyemezo kibi cyo guhisha ibisobanuro no gusimbuza impamvu yo kubura umwe mu bagize umuryango kubera ibintu birangaye (Papa yagiye mu kirere cyangwa yaguye mu kirere). Umwana rero yiyongera cyane guhangayika, ubutegetsi bwo gutegereza burundu bwafunguye, bugira ingaruka mbi psyche.
2. "Umubyeyi wo ku cyumweru." Hamwe nikibazo nk'iki, abana bahatirwa guhitamo, kandi ababyeyi bazi irushanwa, iruta. Umwana, "Kwiruka" hagati ya sokomate Spimwe hamwe na Mama usaba, yakira imyifatire y'ubuzima bw'imibereho, ihatira imitekerereze kandi ihindura imyumvire y'ukuri.
3. Umufatanyabikorwa. Uburyo bubabaza cyane ni impinduka nto mubuzima. Icyo gukora muri ibi bihe: Guha abana ibitekerezo bihwanye, gukina, kugenda, fata ingingo itangira mu iterambere, guhuza ibibazo byuburezi hamwe nuwahoze ari uwo bashakanye.
Bwira ubutumwa bubabaje umuntu umwe, kandi bombi: umwana yizeye bombi. Niba abashakanye bafite ubwoba cyangwa ntibatekereze uburyo bwo gutanga igitekerezo cyumwana, urashobora gusaba ubufasha bwa bene wabo.
Ibiganiro n'imyaka
Kumyaka igera kuri ibiri, umwana abonye ntababaje kubona umwe mubabyeyi. Kuvuga kubyerekeye gutandukana mubisobanuro byose byimyaka itatu bidashoboka. Amagambo menshi yoroshye, yumvikana kugirango yerekane igitekerezo cyuko umwana agikunda kandi ntazacogora mubihe byose.Ku bana bakuru bazahatira ibibazo umubyeyi azitegurwa neza.
Iyo uganiriye nabangavu, ababyeyi rimwe na rimwe bakora amakosa menshi: gutesha agaciro uwahoze ari umufatanyabikorwa ("reba, nyina wa nicide!"), Ubikure mu buzima (nkaho iya kabiri itabaho na gato). Umuntu ukuze ni ngombwa kumva ayo marangamutima mabi nayo ari amarangamutima. Sangira hamwe n'umwana wawe, umva ubwenge bwe, ujye mu mutwe w'abantu mu mutwe, ntugashyire umwangavu ku bahoze ari uwo bashakanye: Nyuma azasobanukirwa n'ibitera ibintu by'ukuri.
Ninde wakoze icyaha?
Imitekerereze y'abana buhagurukiye amakuru yo gutandukana: Abahungu bahinduka bitangirwa, abakobwa bakimara ubwabo. Kandi abo nabandi rimwe na rimwe kwerekana imyigaragambyo y'ababyeyi cyangwa kwishyira aha n'icyaha. Gusa kwitabwaho kwababyeyi, ubwitonzi, kwitegura ikiganiro n'impuhwe zivuye ku mutima zirashobora kugera ku mihindagurikire.
Ikirere mu nzu
Abana "Kurema" amarangamutima. Inshingano y'ababyeyi ni ukugabanya amahano, induru, ibitutsi, amarira n'ibitero. Ishyire mu mwanya w'umwana: Nigute ushobora kwiteza imbere, mugihe isi ikikije isi yuzuye ibibi. Niba biterwa no gutandukana, urubyaro ruhatirwa guhindura aho batuye, ishuri, ishuri ry'incuke, rifasha abaje kumenyera imibereho mishya.