Kwilizwe lomntu omncinci, iinyaniso ezingenakufezekiswa zihlala zisenziwa, ukutshabalalisa okukhokelela kuxinzelelo, ukwaliwa kunye nokwenzakala kwengqondo. Ukwazi kubaluleke kakhulu kwingqondo yokukhula ebazali. IOfisi yoHlelo 24CMI ilungiselele indlela yokwazisa umntwana ngephepheli lomtshato olandelayo.
Ndibenjalo okanye hayi
Ubudlelwane babantu abadala abanabantwana bonke bobomi babo buvavanywa ngamandla. Phakathi kwezizathu zokwahlula izibini, ezona zinto zimnandi zilindele ukungalindelwa, ukuvutha kwengqondo, iingxaki zasekhaya, ukunganyaniseki, ubunzima bezemali. Ngamanye amagama, isigqibo kwisigqibo senziwe ngesiseko seempikiswano ezilungileyo.Ukuba abazali kwinkampani yengqungquthela bavakalisa uqhawulo-mtshato, bathetha ngale nto emntwaneni, kwaye ngosuku olulandelayo, umntwana ukwimeko enjalo kwiGunya leemvakalelo kwaye uvale.
Ngubani osele
Ke, isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato ekugqibeleni kwaye asithathi isibheno. Uthini malunga nalo mntwana? Ekuqaleni, abazali bafumanisa ukuba ubukho kwintsapho yeqabane lokuphuma buza kwenziwa:
1. Shiya ngonaphakade. Umzali uhlala esenza isigqibo sokufihla iinkcukacha kwaye athathe indawo yokungabikho kwelungu losapho kunye neenyaniso eziphazamisayo (utata wangena emhlabeni). Ke umntwana wandisa ixhala, ulawulo lolindelo olusisigxina luvulwa, nto leyo ichaphazela kakubi i-psyche.
"" Ngomzali weCawa. " Ngemeko enjalo, abantwana banyanzelwa ukuba bakhethe, kwaye abazali bayalwazi umntu okhuphisana, ongcono. Umntwana, "ukubaleka" phakathi kotata onentsomi kunye nomama ofuna i-teragenenes, othuka i-psyche kwaye ugqibezele ukuqonda kwenyani.
3. Iqabane. Olona khetho lubuhlungu lolona lutshintsho luncinci kwindlela yokuphila. Yintoni ekufuneka uyenzile kule meko: ukunika abantwana ingqalelo efana neyakho, dlala, hamba, thatha inxaxheba ekuphuhlisweni, vumelana nemibuzo yemfundo yangaphambili.
Xelela umyalezo olusizi unokuba ngumzali omnye, kwaye bobabini: umntwana uyakholosa zombini. Ukuba amaqabane ayoyika okanye angayicingi indlela yokudlulisela ingcinga yomntwana, unokucela uncedo oluvela kwizalamane.
Incoko yabadala
Ukuza kuthi ga kwiminyaka emibini, umntwana uya kubuhlungu abona ukungabikho komnye wabazali. Ukuthetha ngoqhawulo-mtshato kuzo zonke iinkcukacha zexesha leminyaka emithathu. Amagama alula alula, aqondakalayo ukuhambisa ingcinga yokuba umntwana uyathanda kwaye akazukuyeka phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko.Kubantu abadala baya kuvela imibuzo eza kulungiswa ngumzali ngononophelo.
Xa uthetha nabantu abakwishumi elivisayo, ngamanye amaxesha basebenzisa iimpazamo ezininzi: Ukuzihlaziya iqabane lakhe ("Jonga, umama ongumNiki!"), Ukuba owesibini akekho kwaphela. Indoda endala ibalulekile ukuqonda ukuba iimvakalelo ezimbi zikwimvakalelo. Yabelana namava omntwana wakho, phulaphula ingqondo yakhe, yiya kwingqondo, ungamiseli okwishumi elivisayo kumlingane wangaphambili: kamva uya kuqonda oonobangela bokwenyani.
Ngubani onetyala?
Ingqondo yabantwana ihlanganisene ngokutyibilikayo ngengqondo yokuqhawula umtshato: Amakhwenkwe ayalawuleka, amantombazana avalwa ngaphakathi. Kwaye abo kunye nabanye ngamanye amaxesha babonisa uqhankqalazo, bathandabuza igunya lomzali okanye bazibeka endaweni yetyala. Kuphela ngumzali kuphela, ukhathalelo, ukulungela incoko kunye novelwano olugqibeleleyo kunokuphumelela.
Imozulu endlwini
Abantwana "beemvakalelo". Umsebenzi wabazali kukunciphisa ukonakaliswa, ukukhwaza, izithuko, iinyembezi kunye nobukrwada. Zibeke endaweni yomntwana: indlela yokuphuhlisa ngokuncomekayo, xa umhlaba emhlabeni wonke ugcwele ububi. Ukuba ngenxa yoqhawulo-mtshato, inzala inyanzelwa ukuba itshintshe indawo ohlala kuyo, isikolo, isikolo, emva koko sincede ize siziqhelanise neemeko ezintsha zentlalo.