"There are a lot of good girls, and you're atoms - one," like this sounds like a teenager in adulthood. But trying the role of "perfect mother-in-law" still to be. About how to become "his" in the house of daughter-in-law - in the material of the editorial office 24cmi.
I do not see anything, I will not hear anything, I will not say anything
The Japanese game of words accurately conveys the principle of communication with the daughter-in-law. As soon as the wedding march sounded, give up the leading position in the house and allow young on their own decisions. This means that you need to close your eyes on the pureliness of a young wife, assure a deaf when the relationships on elevated colors find out, and in time to retain from comments.
By the way, in the house may not smell with cakes, and a robot vacuum cleaner will perform wet cleaning. Please accept new orders and try not to come with a visit unexpectedly. Agree, you also did not like the "revision" of the mother-in-law.
Stop division Son
The correct tactic in communicating with young is to show interest in the daughter-in-law. It's not about love. Good location and signs of attention is enough to build warm relationships with a new family member. Remember about the birthday, the anniversary of the wedding, the total dates of the couple. Be sure to present a gift to my son's son, preferably neutral. A subscription in a fitness room or a culinary book will be a hint of disadvantages of a woman.Do not discuss with your son the character of the spouse. Stressing the welding of his wife, you are fighting for leadership and thereby make a sense of splitness into the life of a young family.
Do not configure grandchildren against the mother, because the love of parents in childhood is unconditional. The labile children's psyche will not stand the pressure from the grandmother and dislike will be directed against the one who speaks poorly about the main person in the child's life.
Try to deal with the daughter-in-law of female classes: shopping trip or in beauty salon, for example. This will allow each other better.
Do not help if you do not ask
It will be nice if the young from the first day will live separately and fill their own bumps. This means that you should not give culinary councils or tell how it is better to do if you were not asked about it. Respect the autonomy of the family. Avoid interfere with the budget distribution, children's education and housekeeping. Attempts to "learn life" will be perceived by the daughter-in-law negatively. And the night cuckoo, as you know, the daily smokes, and the relationship with the son will ruin.
Take yourself
Exhale and pass the son in the hands of a loving woman. It's time to immerse yourself in the hobby, communicate with households and spend the evenings with girlfriends. Do not waste forces on scandals and search for shortcomings of a young wife, and better relax and enjoy life. You raised a decent son, who is time to get off the offspring and, if you are lucky, build a house and plant a tree. It remains to rejoice in the opening of new perspectives and build plans for the future.