Kusukela ekuzalweni kanye, umuntu omncane kuqala uzokwazi uthando lwabazali. Umama nobaba bangabaqhubi abathembekile lapho bekhula. Bafundise ukugcina isipuni bebodwa, thatha izinyathelo zokuqala, thethelela amacala ebhokisini lesihlabathi, lungisa ukuhlolwa, hlangana nothisha eyunivesithi. Futhi namhlanje, indodana noma indodakazi ibiza ngezindaba ezinhle kakhulu: "Bazali, ngifuna ukukwazisa kumakoti noma umyeni." Lesi sihloko sizokhuluma ngokuthi singaziphatha kanjani nengane ethandekayo, yini okufanele ngikhulume ngayo yokwamukela ngayo ukukhetha kwakhe.
"Isimenywa Esihle Njalo ngaleso sikhathi"
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Izingane zithatha isibonelo esivela kubazali, indlela abaziphatha ngayo, imikhuba yabo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi indodana noma indodakazi akuyona ikhophi, ngakho-ke ama-chosens angahle angathandi, akhulise. Akunasidingo sokudweba ekhanda ekhanda njengemvula kanye nezithombe ezimbi, kungcono ukuba selungiselelo lemimoya emnandi.
"Ngiyajabula ngijabule, kepha ngithi isihe esisicelayo!"
Umthetho oyinhloko: Yiba nomusa futhi ulungile. Abazali bangahle bangakuthandi ukubonakala kwentombazane noma umfana, kepha akekho umuntu okufanele akhulume ngakho ngokuzwakalayo.Uma umuntu okhethiwe (noma okhethiwe) wengane waletha isipho esingajwayelekile noma esingadingekile, kungcono ukungasabeli ngokungathandeki: Ngemuva kwakho konke, kunzima ukukhetha isipho sabantu abangaziwa ngokuphelele. Into elungile kakhulu kulesi simo ukuthi ihlole imizamo yesivakashi nezinhloso zakhe ezinhle.
"Izivakashi ezigudlayo - Musa amathambo e-bry, ungagadi ngobuso, unikeze ama-vints!"
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Uma uhlangabezana nesithandwa sengane, akudingekile ukwenza iholide elimnandi ngokuluma kwetafula nokukhathazeka ngezitsha (kungazelelwe akakudli), kwanele ukumboza ikhekhe lokudlela elijwayelekile, uthenge ikhekhe nebhodlela ye-champagne.
"Ukudla Kwabani, Ukuzwa"
Ungaziphatha kanjani etafuleni? Abanikazi bakha umoya ovuselelekile, qala ingxoxo engathandeki yezihloko zakwamanye amazwe. Noma ingane inezinhlelo ezinkulu zomuntu othandekayo noma othanda (ukujwayelana nabazali iyisinyathelo esibucayi futhi esinomthwalo wemfanelo ebudlelwaneni), akufanele uhlele imibuzo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, bacela izinto zokuzilibazisa, umndeni, amacebo kusihlwa. Isimenywa sizophumula futhi sisekele ingxoxo.Ingane izoba nzima uma abazali beqala ukukhuluma ngempilo yakhe, bonisa izithombe lapho enqunu khona ebhishi lolwandle olumnyama. Ukuze ungabi ngamahloni isivakashi, noma ingane, abazali bazithinta ngokuzimela lesi sihloko.
Abazali bavame ukungajabuli ngokuxabana kwezizukulwane. Akufanele uhlele amahlazo futhi ufakazele ukuthi i-USSR yabeletha izingane ezinhlanu futhi ayizange ikhathele ukuthi umnotho ohleliwe ungcono kunemakethe. Kungcono ukuthinta imibuzo enjalo futhi ukhawulele ibinzana: "Nginokubukeka okuhlukile kulesi sihloko."
"Izivakashi Zokususa - Hhayi Ukuzikhalela"
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Musa ukubamba ibhulogi lezivakashi emahlombe. Uma ngabe umalokazana ongaba khona, ngokwesibonelo, wabika ukuthi usebenza njengodokotela, akhulume ngokungalungile ngokugula kwakhe futhi afune ukubonisana. Noma "Bona ukuthi yini lapho nge-bach", uma umfana wendodakazi esebenza ngamapayipi.
"Bahlangabezana Nezingubo, Emcabangweni baphelezela"
Ukujwayeza akuhlali kuhamba kahle noma cha njengoba nje singathanda womabili amaqembu. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi labo kanye nabanye bakhathazekile, bakhathazekile futhi bazizwa bekhululekile. Abazikhukhumezayo, ekuqaleni nje, indodakazi yaseMkhwenyana ingaba yinsizwa e-Erudite, ebucayi. Indodana intombazane enama-tattoos nezinwele ezipinki - iziqu zeHarvard University kanye nomsingathi omuhle kakhulu.
Ukuhlakanipha kwabazali ukukwamukela ngokwanele ukukhethwa kwengane esencane, thokozani ngaye izigaba ezintsha ngobudlelwano noma nizwelane ngokuhlukana.