Umuntu ngamunye wezwa igama elithi "cha", noma ngabe lenqaba iklayenti elingaba khona noma intombazane enziwe (noma umfana). Futhi kuhlale kungathandeki. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi ukungabaza ukuzwa impendulo engemihle yesicelo sakhe kusuka ku-interlocutor futhi nakancane ithola ukwakheka kwe-phobia ebuhlungu. Futhi-ke kuyadingeka ukwenza umzamo omkhulu wokunqoba ukwesaba ukwenqaba okulandelayo.
Kwezazi zengqondo ezinikezwa yizengqondo, izindlela zokuqeda ukwesaba okunjalo ziku-24cm.
1. "Cha" akusona isigwebo
Isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni, inhloso yokuthi yikuphi ukunqoba ukwesaba ukwenqaba okungenzeka, kuzokwazi ukuthi impilo kungenzeka ngemuva kokuthi "cha". Ngempela, uma uhlaziya izimo ezingenzeka ekuthuthukisweni kwemicimbi ngemuva kokuphendula okungekuhle kwe-interlocutor, akunzima ukukuqonda ukuthi ngamaphesenti angama-90%, akukho lutho olubi ngokwenqaba ngeke lulandele.Vele, kunezimo lapho ukusabela okuhle kubaluleke kakhulu futhi kungathinta nokuphila nempilo yezihlobo. Kepha ezimweni ezinjalo, umuntu uzokhathazeka futhi anamahloni, umkhuba wokuthi injabulo yokwenqaba okungenzeka akukho nhlobo. Kwezinye izimo, ngemuva kokusabela okungekuhle, inhlekelele akwenzeki, ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukuba bahlanganyele kokuhlangenwe nakho ngalesi sihloko.
2. Lutho muntu
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo babona ukuthi ukwesaba ukuzwa okuthi "Cha" kuhlotshaniswa nezinhlangano ezingezinhle - Umuntu uyaqiniseka ukuthi kwakuyisizathu sokwenqaba. Kwaphendulwa impendulo emnandi engadingekile. Ikakhulu kakhulu ezimweni ezinjalo, ukudangala kubantu abasahlushwa ubukhulu bobusha futhi bafuna okwenzekayo nxazonke mayelana nobudlelwano nomuntu wakubo.
Kepha ezimweni eziningi, isimo sangemuva sinesibopho sokusabela okungekuhle kusuka ku-interlocutor. Ikhanda, ibhodi yokufaka, ukuxabana nabazali noma ingxenye yesibili - ngicela, umphathi uhlala ngaphandle kokuthengiswa "okuvaliwe", nensizwa engenalo usuku nobuhle obusha.
Kepha akunakwenzeka ukukhohlwa ukuthi ngaphansi kwezinye izimo kwaphenduka kahle ukuzwa "yebo." Ukube bekungekho zici ezacekela phansi isimo sengqondo esihle sayo.
3. Endleleni eya ngcono
Usizo ekunqobeni ukwesaba ngaphambi kokuhluleka futhi kuzoba nenye indlela efuna ukwazi. Kwanele ukuzikholisa ukuthi yonke "cha", ngakolunye uhlangothi, isitini odongeni lokuqongelela isipiliyoni sempilo, nakwelinye - isinyathelo esilandelayo esendleleni eba ngcono.Lokho wukuthi, ukufeza ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu owenqabayo ucindezela nje ekufuneni izisombululo ezifanelekile komunye umsebenzi noma omunye umsebenzi. Noma ekukhetheni kwengxenye yesibili efanelekile, uma sikhuluma ngobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu.
4. Musa ukwakha izibikezelo
Ukunqoba ukwesaba okungenzeka ukuthi mhlawumbe "mhlawumbe, kumiswa ukubikezela. Kusukela esimweni semizamo enjalo, abantu (ngaphandle kokuzethemba "ngamaphesenti ayikhulu") bavame ukuzingeza bona, "ukubikezela" umphumela ongemuhle.
Ngakho-ke, bakwazi ukukholelwa ekuphelelweni ngethemba lokuzama kwabo, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba babuze umbuzo noma baphumelele usizo. Futhi kunalokho ulinde okubi, kunokuba nethemba ngesinqumo esihle.
Kuhle ukukhumbula ukuthi umuntu, olungiselelwe ukwehluleka, ufakazela ngokungakhethi isimo sakhe sengqondo ngalesi simo nalowo osithandayo. Futhi okwedlule, ukuzwa isizinda esingokomzwelo sohlanganyelwe, kufuna ukumisa ingxoxo, ngakho-ke ithi "cha", ephula ilungelo. Ngakho-ke isu elithembekileyo ukumisa ukudana kokudangala ngokwakho nokuzinikela kwintando yecala.
5. Qonda izizathu
Indlela enhle ekuvumela ukuthi unqobe ukwesaba uJehova "Cha" - ukubuza labo abaphendula ababi ngezizathu zesinqumo esinjalo. Lokhu kuzonikeza, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuqongelela okuhlangenwe nakho okuzovumela esikhathini esizayo ukuze ahlole amathuba okuthi "ukunqoba." Futhi ngasikhathi sinye kuzonikeza ithuba "lesikhashana lesibili". Ngemuva kwakho konke, umuntu atshela ngezimbangela zezimbangela "cha" ezinsundu ", iziphetho zalo zokuqala ziyakwazi ukuchaza nokubuyekezwa.Ngokwemvelo, umbuzo uyadingeka ukuthi uchazwe kahle nangobumnene, ukuze ungavusa ummangalelwa ngolaka.
6. Impilo ngumdlalo
Enye inqubo enconywe yizengqondo efuna ukuqeda ukwesaba izimpendulo ezingezinhle, imiyalo yokuhambisa inqubo yokubeka isicelo futhi ithole isinqumo kuyo njengomdlalo. Ngamanye amagama, abstract kusuka emizweni nasekusondeleni umbuzo ngengxenyana ye-frivolism.
Ikakhulu kusukela kulo mdlalo, ukufezekiswa komphumela omuhle akugcini ngokuphela kokunokwenzeka. Kungenzeka nokuthi "ukwehluleka kwezingxoxo", akukho okuzovimba umzamo wokuphinda kamuva. Futhi akunandaba, ukukhathazeka ngecala lobambiswano lwebhizinisi, ukuthola imalimboleko noma isifiso sokunqoba inhliziyo yomuntu oyethandile.
7. Empini ukuzethemba
Imvamisa ngesidingo sokulwa nokwesaba kwakho ukwehluleka, kufanele abantu abangaqinisekile. Lesi samuva sibonakala sengathi lawo maphutha ababewembula ngokwawo ayaziwa futhi azungezile. Yize empeleni, akukho lutho olufana nalokhu okubonakalayo.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze banqobe ukwesaba "Cha", kuzofanela unqobe ukungaqiniseki. Futhi ngalezi zinhloso, ungaqeqeshi ukukhula kobuntu noma ukuvakashela udokotela wezengqondo (ngaphandle kwezimo zama-psychotrams). Kanye nokuzithiba nemisebenzi yezemidlalo - akukho okunikeza ukuzethemba emandleni akho, njengomzimba omuhle futhi onempilo. Futhi, ukusebenzisa usizo kusiza ukuphazamisa okubi hhayi ukuzishayela ekucindezelekeni, kanye nokukhulisa umlingiswa.