Imithetho engekho mthethweni yoluntu ihlonitshwa 'ngokuzenzekelayo ": Abantu abadala, ubomi basekhaya baphila umfazi, indoda nomfazi balala ebhedini enye. Le "imithetho" yeza nabantu ngokwabantu, kodwa ayizithobelanga kubo bonke. Ukuphambuka kwimigaqo kubangela ukungavunyelwa kwabantu.
Kutheni le nto indoda nomfazi kufuneka ndilale kunye? Ukulala kumagumbi ahlukeneyo akusoloko kubonisa iingxaki kubudlelwane, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele "iintsimbi zokuqala" kwaye ngexesha lokugcina ubudlelwane.
Oonobangela bobuthongo ohlukileyo
Bonke abantu bahlukile: umntu ulungele ukuncama ubusuku obungasebenziyo, kwaye intuthuzelo yomntu iyabiza kakhulu. Ngokutsho kovavanyo lwentlalo olwenziwe eMoscow, ama-70% abantu abatshatileyo abachitha ngokwahlukeneyo ngokwahlukeneyo, baqhuba ngenxa yokubethwa.
Oku kungaqinisekanga kungekuphela nje kubangela ukucaphukisa kwiqabane lesibini, kodwa kukwenza iintloko zentloko kunye nokungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo. Izazinzulu zafumanisa ukuba iqabane lithathe umlingane othatha iqabane kwi-49 imizuzu yokulala. Umntu akaphuhli, ngenxa yokuba usuku luziva ludandathekile. Ubomi obusondeleyo bamaqabane bunengxaki. Isiqingatha sabaphenduli savuma ukuba iinkumbulo zeqabane le-snore, zinciphise umtsalane kuye.
Enye into eqhelekileyo ngabantwana. Umama ukhetha ukuba kunye nomntwana ojikeleze iwotshi kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi, kwaye utata wakhe uphumle kwelinye igumbi, kuba kufanele ukuba azaliswe. Ntseni ukuba uza kusebenza. Ke, ngenxa yomkhwa wokulala nomntwana, umama akamshiyi namnye, ke uBawo uhlala elahlekile. Uchitha ubusuku bodwa, kuba umfazi wayengenakulungiselela ngokufanelekileyo ukulala kwabantwana.
Iimpembelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga zobuthongo ohlukileyo
Ukuzonwabisa ebusuku - isiseko sentlalo-ntle esinamandla. Ukuba ubuthongo obahlukileyo bamaqabane bazisa zombini izibonelelo ezininzi kunokubangela ingozi, kungcono ukuhamba njengoko kunjalo. Umfazi oxhonywe ebusuku unomdla wokuthetha nomyeni wakhe kwaye ekhathalele ngaye. Akaphazamisi ukulala, kwaye ubusuku abunxulunyaniswa 'gaderus ".
Hayi naphi na ukuba ahambe naphi na ukusuka kwi-stereotypes ephuhlisileyo kwesi sihloko: Uthando luphume kwaye amaqabane "apholile". Amaqabane alala ngokwahlukileyo, aphulukene ngakumbi. Izazinzulu kwintsimi yokufunda ubudlelwane boluntu inabo bonke ubusuku obuchithe kwiibhedi ezahlukeneyo ixhasa uthando kunye nemvakalelo yothando.
Yintoni esetyenzisiweyo kwintsapho enye inokutshabalalisa enye. Ukwahlula ubusuku bashenxisa amaqabane. Xa begqiba kwelokuba bachithe ubusuku kwakhona, ukungonwabi kuyavela. Umntu oqhele ukuqhubela phambili kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo. Ukulala kuphela-kuthetha ukuba akukho mntu uthandayo. Akukho ntuthumbo kunye nembambano ngenxa yokunqongophala kwendawo ebhedini. Kodwa ngenxa yeqabane lakho othandanayo, kufuneka ubingelele, ukuphendula, uya kuzama ukwenza yonke into yokuphumla kweqabane elifanelekileyo.
Behlule ebhedini nobusuku, beqhutywa ngentanda yakhe, baya kuchaphazela ubudlelwane. Kodwa umntu ulawula indlela eza kubakho iindlela eziza kubakho utshintsho. Ukuba kukho uthando kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla, ayinamsebenzi apho indoda nomfazi balele khona, abayi kuchaphazela umtshato wabo.