Ukwahlukana ngumsitho wokutshintsha ividiyo yehlabathi kunye nokunyanzela ukuba ucinge ngokwakha ubudlelwane neqabane elizayo. Emva kwekhefu, le ndoda ifumana iimvakalelo ezininzi: Ukuqala ingqumbo, ingqumbo, intiyo, ukuphela nokukhululeka, ukunyameka, ukuziva unyanisekile kunye nokunyaniseka kokuthatha uthando olutsha.
Kodwa njani ukuba njani ukuba iqela langaphambili liveze isipho? Ungamkeli-kuthetha ukuzicaphukisa, kwaye umva, ke ngoko kuvela umbuzo oqinisekisiweyo: Ufumana njani isipho kwaye sibulela iqabane lakho? Apha ngezantsi kukho iingcebiso ezininzi ezivela kwiBhodi yoHlelo 24
Unobangela wokwahlula
Ngokutsho kophando olwenziwe kwijenali ubudlelwane bobuqu, kukho izizathu ezi-4 zokugcina ubudlelwane namaqabane akhonga:
- Ifunyenwe ngokudibeneyo (abantwana, ipropathi, ishishini, imali);
- Ukhuseleko (umntu uphulukene neqabane lothando, kodwa uhlala ungenguye, ngokweemvakalelo) okanye ngokomoya);
- Intlonelo (ngenxa yeenkolelo zabo, umntu uqinisekile ukuba ukuvuyisana ngeholide, gcina unxibelelwano-uphawu lwethoni elungileyo);
- Iminqweno yothando (i-Guestalt evulekileyo - umbono wokungoneliseki kwaye ungapheliyo phakathi kwamaqabane).
Utata nomhlobo
Ukuba amanqaku amabini okuqala asebenza kubudlelwane, ke ukwakhiwa kwemida yobuqu kuchaphazela kuphela unxibelelwano kuphela nabantwana, imvume yeentlanganiso, iinkcazo ze-Taboo, kodwa nophawu lokuthathelwa ingqalelo kwefomathi yenjongo. Umbulelo ngumnqweno wendoda ngokuzithandela. Icebiso: Umda njengomfutshane "mfutshane" enkosi, ndonwabile ", kwaye ndishiyeke ngokusemthethweni (ukuba ezi zimo zengqondo zisithi) Kwithoni yesibheno, icebo lolwalamano alivumelekanga, impendulo ifutshane, ngokucacileyo, ithintelwe.Ubumbeko kunye neemvakalelo
Kwiindawo ezimbini zokugqibela, unxibelelwano kunye nezipho ziya kukhokelela ekungaqiniseki ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ukuthatha isipho kwiqabane langaphambili, unika ithemba lokuvuselela ubudlelwane. Ukuba awufuni, musani ukuncuma, musani ukuba neflethi, musa ukubonisa iimvakalelo eziqaqambileyo.
"Enkosi, ndonwabile ukuba unomdla ngam. Uhlala uyayazi into endiyithandayo, usenayo ekhaya? " -Inketho engasebenziyo.
Yangaphambili kwaye ikho
Ukuba ubudlelwane bude baphulukene nentsingiselo yayo okanye iqabane elitsha elibonakalayo ebomini, eso sipho siya kuyibangela imibuzo efanelekileyo malunga nokuba lo mntu usondeleyo kangakanani na lo mntu, ngaziphi iimeko isipho senziwa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngaphandle komsebenzi "enkosi", buza ukuba umnikelo kunye naye uyintoni intsingiselo kwaye imisebenzi: "Ndiyanibulela, ngaba isipho sakho sento endiyandinyanzela?".
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