Ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha semitshato eRussia iphele ngoqhawulo-mtshato. Iinqobo zokuziphatha kumadoda nabafazi batshintshile, kuba usapho alusenalo njengonxibelelwano olomeleleyo lobomi. Ingxaki enkulu ikhukhumalisa abantu ukuba bayinxalenye. Xa umntu engenamthwalo uxanduva, kulula ukuhamba, kodwa ubukho bomntwana utshintsha yonke into. Iba yi "ankile", ethintela ulwalamano olutsha lokwakha. Kodwa intombazana kunye nomntwana iya kutshata nedwa, ayikho kwindoda encinci. Eyona nto iphambili yindlela elungileyo.
Ubukho bomntwana asisosizathu sokuba nesithukuthezi
Ukuqonda umba wokwakha usapho lwabasetyhini abaqhawule umtshato, iingcali zengqondo ziqhuba uphando. Badlan 'indlebe namalungu endoda kunye namabhinqa abemi babemi abakumxholo wemfuno' yokufuya "kubudlelwane obunye. Iipesenti ezingama-90 zamadoda zithatha abafazi abanjalo bomelele, belumkile kwaye bezimele. Inani elifanayo labafazi bavakalisa izimvo eziphambeneyo. Bacinga ukuba amanenekazi amancinci aqhawule umtshato, alolo kwaye alodwa.
Ingxaki yabameli bobuthathaka besini, esisindayo ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane bobudlelwane, kukuqonda okungalunganga. Babeka umnqamlezo ebomini bakho ngaphambi kokuba iqabane elitsha liza kudibana. Emva koqhawulo-mtshato, uxinzelelo lwavela, imfuneko yokusebenza kakhulu, ubudlelwane kunye nomyeni be-Ekuqaleni, ngenxa yokuzola komntwana. Zonke ezi zinto zitshabalalisa ukuzithemba "zokuzalela".
Ungadibana phi nendoda?
Ukuqikelela apho iqabane eliphupha liza kuhlangana khona, akunakwenzeka. Kodwa umfazi onomntwana, ngoku ezinye iindlela zokwazi kakuhle. Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuba unikele ingqalelo koogxa bakho. Uninzi lwabo lwaziwa, ukubakho kokumangaliswa okungathandekiyo kuncitshisiwe. Oomama abanalo ixesha lokuhamba ngeeklabhu kunye neeresityu, ngoko batsala ingqalelo yenxalenye yendoda eyindoda.Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kule nkulungwane yama-21 ukuya kudibana nendoda ephakamisa umntwana ngeyexesha ngelixa umfazi okhe wahlova i-manaves. Ngotata oculayo, baqhelene nentlanganiso yabazali okanye "bahlanganisene" ngokujonga kwipaseji yesikolo.
Ayinamsebenzi apho iqhelene nentombazana kunye nomntwana, ngamanye amaxesha kukho umntu onesidima kwiklabhu. Eyona nto iphambili kukukhumbula ukuba lowo unyuliweyo omtsha makanxibelelane nomntwana ngononophelo nangokuhlonitshwa. Ukuba, ukusuka kumntu okokuqala, le ndoda yayalela ukuya kumyalelo kwaye yamemela ukuba enze ntoni, usapho olonwabileyo aluyi kusebenza.
Ukuthandana okhethiweyo nomntwana
Ndidinga ukufumanisa unyana okanye intombi yam kunye neqabane xa kukho ukuqonda okuchanileyo kwento yokuba ubudlelwane abudluli. Ukuzisa indlu yendoda nganye - kuthetha ukwenzakalisa i-psyche yabantwana. Zixelwe kwangaphambili ukuba icwangcisiwe ukuba iqhelene nomhlobo omtsha kaMama. Indawo yentlanganiso ikhethekile, kodwa umntwana akabotshwa. Incoko ephumeleleyo iya kwenzeka kumsebenzi ochwayitileyo.
Ingcebiso: Sukuthenga izipho ezixabisa kakhulu zokwazi ukuphinda ukwaziwa. Ungathanda umntu, hayi amathuba akhe ezemali. Kodwa iqabane lomfazi alifanele lilibale, kuba yena lixesha elimnandi, kwaye kufuneka lilungiselelwe. Indoda kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba le ntlanganiso iza kuzisa iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo, njengoko isoyikiswa kakuhle kunelungu losapho elincinci.
Nokuba intombazana iya kutshata ukuba yena kunye nomntwana ixhomekeke kuphela kuye. IVera ifuneka kunye nomnqweno wokuphumelela. Ukuba uyakukhumbula oko kukuthintela ekuqhelisweni konyulo olutsha nomntwana, intlanganiso iya kuba mnandi.