Ukususela ngokuzalwa, indoda encinci iya kwazi uthando lwabazali. Umama notata bangabaqeqeshi abathembekileyo ekubaleni. Bafundisa ukugcina isipuni ngokwabo, thatha amanyathelo okuqala, baphendule aboni kwibhokisi yesanti, lungisa iimvavanyo, hlalani nootitshala eyunivesithi. Kwaye namhlanje, uNyana okanye intombi ithi neendaba ezinesithuthuthu: "Bazali, ndifuna ukukwazisa kumtshakazi okanye umyeni." Inqaku liza kuthetha ngendlela yokuziphatha kunye nomntwana oyintanda, oko kuthetha ngendlela yokwamkela ukhetho alukhethayo.
"Ngokubaluli olungileyo rhoqo ngelo xesha"
Abantwana bathatha umzekelo kubazali, indlela abaziphatha ngayo, imikhwa. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba unyana okanye intombi ayisiyo ikopi, ngoko abanyuliweyo basenokungathandi, kubangela inkalipho okanye ukungoneliseki. Akukho sidingo sokuzoba entlokweni entlokweni njengemvula kunye nemifanekiso eyoyikekayo, kungcono ukuba kwilungiselelo lomoya elimnandi.
"Ndiyavuya ndiyavuya, kodwa sithetha inceba siyabuza!"
Umgaqo ophambili: Yiba nobubele kwaye uchanekile. Abazali basenokungayithandi imbonakalo yentombazana okanye indoda, kodwa akukho mntu ufanele athethe ngayo ngokuvakalayo.Ukuba ikhetha (okanye ikhethwe) yomntwana lazisa isipho esingaqhelekanga okanye esingeyomfuneko, kungcono ukuba ungasabi senzekile ngenkani: Kunzima ukukhetha isipho sabantu abangaqhelekanga. Eyona nto ichanekileyo kule meko kukuvavanya iinzame zondwendwe kunye neenjongo zakhe ezintle.
"Iindwendwe ezigculelayo-musa ukugqobhoza amathambo, ungabi kubuso, nika!"
Ukuba udibana nentanda kasana, akuyimfuneko ukwenza iholide yepompous kunye netafile okanye ixhala malunga nezitya (angayityisi), kwanele ukukhangela ikhekhe oluqhelekileyo, uthenge ikhekhe kunye nebhotile yeChampagne.
"Kukutya, ukuva"
Indlela yokuziphatha etafileni? Abanini badala imeko ehlaziyiweyo, qala incoko engathandekiyo yezihloko zangaphandle. Nokuba umntwana unesicwangciso esinzulu sentanda okanye i-lover (ukuze siqhelane nabazali linyathelo elinobuchule nelinoxanduva kubudlelwane), akufuneki ukuba ulungiselele intente yokubuza. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, bacela izinto zokuzonwabisa, usapho, izicwangciso zangokuhlwa. Indwendwe liya kuphumla kwaye ixhase incoko.Umntwana uya kuba yinto engathandekiyo ukuba abazali baqalisa ukuthetha ngobomi bakhe, bonisa iifoto apho ahamba khona kwilwandlekazi olumnyama lolwandle. Ukuze angabi nazintloni iindwendwe, okanye umntwana, abazali ngokuzimeleyo bakuchaphazela esi sihloko.
Abazali bahlala bengonwabanga kukungavisisani kwezizukulwane. Akufanele ungenelele ukohlwaya kwaye ungqine ukuba i-USSR yazala abantwana abahlanu kwaye ingakhathalelwanga ukuba uqoqosho olucwangcisiweyo lungcono kunemarike. Kungcono ukuba ungachukumisi le mibuzo kwaye ubeke umda kwibinzana: "Ndijonge ngangokuhlukileyo kwesi sihloko."
"Iindwendwe zokucima-ungazibili"
Musa ukubamba ibhlog yendwendwe emagxeni. Ukuba umkhwenyana onokubakho, umzekelo, ekwabelwana ngayo ukuba usebenza njengogqirha, thetha ngokungachanekanga ngezigulo zakhe kunye nokubonisana ngemfuno. Okanye "Jonga ukuba yintoni enomthubi", ukuba indoda yentombazana isebenza ngeeplumbers.
"Badibana nempahla, engqondweni baphembelela"
Iqhelekile ayihlali ihamba kakuhle okanye ingeyiyo konke konke esiya kuba ngamaqela omabini amaqela. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ezo kunye nabanye banexhala, zikhathazekile kwaye ziziva zithandeka. Eyona nto ikhukhumeleyo, ekuqaleni kwentombi yokuqala, iGroom isenokuba ngumfana onobuqili, onomdla. Nyana yentombazana enee-tattoos kunye neenwele ezipinki-iphumelele iYunivesithi yaseHarvard kunye ne-hostess efanelekileyo.
Ubulumko baba ngumzali kukwamkela ngokwaneleyo ukukhetha komntwana okwishumi elivisayo, yibani nemihlali ngaye amanqanaba amatsha ebudlelwaneni okanye uvelwano ngokuhlulela.