Umntu ngamnye waliva igama elithi "hayi", ukuba laliyinyani umthengi onokubakho okanye intombazana enesidima (okanye indoda). Kwaye ihlala ingathandeki. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuthandabuza ukuva impendulo engalunganga kwisicelo sakhe kumnxibelelanisi kwaye kuko konke ukufumana ubume bephobia enentlungu. Kwaye ke kuyimfuneko ukwenza umzamo omkhulu wokoyisa uloyiko lokungavumanga okulandelayo.
Kwizingcali zengqondo ezinikelwa ziingcali zengqondo, iindlela zokususa uloyiko ezinjalo zikwi-24cmm.
1. "hayi" asisiyo isigwebo
Inyathelo lokuqala endleleni, injongo yokoyiloyisa uloyiko lokungavumi, uya kwazi ukuba ubomi bunokwenzeka emva koko "hayi". Ewe, ukuba uyahlalutya iimeko ezinokubakho kuphuhliso lweziganeko emva kokuphendula okungalunganga komnxibelelanisi, akunzima ukuqonda ukuba kwiipesenti ezingama-90, akukho nto imbi kakhulu yokwala akuyi kulandela.Ewe kunjalo, kukho iimeko apho indlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ide ichaphazele ubomi nezempilo zezalamane. Kodwa kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu uya kukhathazeka kwaye uneentloni, kumkhwa waso uchulumanco onokuthi awuphelele. Kwezinye iimeko, emva kwempendulo embi, intlekele ayenzeki, kwaye ke, akuyomfuneko ukubandakanyeka kumava okusi sihloko.
2. Akukho nto
Iingcali zengqondo ziqaphela ukuba uloyiko lokuva "hayi" lunxulunyaniswa nolwalamano olungenampilo-umntu uqinisekile ukuba sisizathu sokwala. Yajika yaba yimpendulo entle engafunekiyo. Ingakumbi kwiimeko ezinjalo, uxinzelelo kubantu abasabandezeleka kobuhlobo bobutsha nokufuna into eyenzekayo malunga nobudlelwane nomntu wabo.
Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, imeko yale yokugqibela inoxanduva lokusabela kakubi kumnxibelelanisi. Intloko ebuhlungu, i-Inclipboard, ixabana nabazali okanye isiqingatha sesibini-kwaye ithengise, umphathi "ovaliweyo", kunye nomfana ongenamhla ngobuhle obuncinci.
Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukulibala ukuba phantsi kweminye imeko iguqukele kakuhle ukuva "ewe." Ukuba bekungekho zizinto ezitshabalalisa isimo sengqondo esihle seVisa.
3. Endleleni eya engcono
Uncedo lokoyisa uloyiko ngaphambi kokusilela kuya kuba nenye indlela efanelekileyo. Kwanele ukubazisela ukuba yonke into "hayi", kwelinye icala, isitena eludongeni lokuqokelelwa kwamava obomi, kwelinye - inyathelo elilandelayo ngendlela engcono.Oko kukuthi, ukufezekisa ukuqonda ukuba umntu ovulekileyo utsiba nje ukhangela izisombululo ezifanelekileyo komnye okanye komnye umsebenzi. Okanye kukhetho lwesiqingatha sesibini esifanelekileyo, ukuba sithetha malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
4. UNGAYENZI UMBONO
Ukoyisa uloyiko lokuba "hayi" mhlawumbi, ukuyeka uqikelelo. Ukusukela kwimeko yemizamo enjalo, abantu (ngaphandle kokuzithemba "ikhulu leepesenti") bazongezelela kubo, "uqikelela" isiphumo esibi.
Ke ngoko, bayakwazi ukukholelwa ekuphelisweni kwethemba lendlela yabo yokwaphula, kwanangaphambi kokuba babuze umbuzo okanye bacele uncedo. Kwaye kunokuba ulinde i-negative, kunokuba ithemba ngesigqibo esihle.
Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba umntu, alungele ukungaphumeleli, uqhomboloza isimo sakhe sengqondo malunga nemeko kwaye abo babhenela kuye. Kwaye le yokugqibela, zivakalelwa ngemvelaphi yonxibelelwano, ifuna ukumisa incoko, kwaye ke ithi "hayi", zisaphula ilungelo. Ke isicwangciso sokwenyani kukuyekisa ukudakumba kwingqinisiso lakho kunye nokunikezela kwintando yetyala.
5. Qonda izizathu
Eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo ekuvumela ukuba woyise uloyiko 'hayi "- ukucela abo baphendule ngezizathu zesigqibo eso. Oku kuyakunika, kwelinye icala, ukuqokelela amava okuya kuvumela kwikamva ukuze kuvavanye amathuba "okuphumelela." Kwaye kwangaxeshanye kuya kunika ithuba 'lesibini lesihlandlo "". Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umntu ubaxelela ngoonobangela "AKUKHO" zizathu, izigqibo zayo zokuqala ziyakwazi ukuchaza nokuhlaziywa.Ngokwemvelo, umbuzo kufuneka ucaciswe ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngobunono, ukuze ungamcaphukisi ummangalelwa eluntwini.
6. Ubomi ngumdlalo
Enye indlela ecetyiswayo ngoochwephesha bezengqondo abafuna ukususa uloyiko lweempendulo ezimbi, kumisela ukungenisa inkqubo yokumisela isicelo kwaye bafumane isigqibo kuwo njengomdlalo. Ngamanye amagama, ngokungathanga kwiimvakalelo kwaye uye kumbuzo ngeqhezu le-frivolism.
Ngokukodwa ukusukela, njengakwimidlalo, ukufezekiswa kwesiphumo esifanelekileyo akupheleli ekuphela kwethuba. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba "ukusilela kothethathethwano", akukho nto iya kuthintela ukuzama ukuphindaphinda kamva. Kwaye ayinamsebenzi, inkxalabo yentsebenziswano yobambiswano, ukufumana imali mboleko okanye umnqweno wokuzoyisa iintliziyo zomntu.
7. Edaleni ukuze sizithembe
Rhoqo ngemfuneko yokulwa noloyiko lwakho lokusilela, kuya kufuneka abantu bangaqinisekanga. Oku kubonakala kubonakala ngathi ezo ziphoso zibonakalise ngokwazo ziyaziwa kwaye zingqongileyo. Nangona inyani, akukho nto injalo enjalo.
Ke ngoko, ukuze woyise uloyiko 'hayi ", kuya kufuneka woyise ukungaqiniseki. Ngezi njongo, musa ukuqeqesha ukukhula komntu okanye ukutyelela ugqirha wezengqondo (ngaphandle kweemeko ze-psychotroms). Kunye nokuzibamba kunye nezinto ezemidlalo- akukho nto inika intembelo kumandla akho, njengomzimba omhle nowasempilweni. Kwaye, imisebenzi esebenzayo inceda ukuphazamiseka kwezeqabane kwaye ungaziqhubekisi dakumba, kunye nokuphucula unyamezelo kumlinganiswa.